I Failed: Lessons From My Biggest Failure

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I failed badly in school.

It took me 5 years to do a 3 year degree.

I wasn’t happy with that at all, especially during my second last year of school, which was supposed to be my last.

When I realised how badly I failed, I practically freaked out and had to go for a counselling session to put everything into perspective.

The consequences of this failure were:-

1. I had to go back home to my parents and show them my transcript, for them to see how badly I had done.

What hit me most was that they were going to have to fork out more fees for me to complete my degree. It made me feel so guilty because I knew how hard they were working, and I took this completely for granted.

2. When I got back to the university the next year for my last year, I had to contend with the embarrassment of going back to repeat another year.

As expected, everyone had graduated, and the only ones who hadn’t clearly were the ones who slacked off, and I was part of that party.

I felt terrible being identified as someone who wasn’t serious about their studies or their future, but the embarrassment didn’t last long.

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The rewards of this failure:

1. I had a dramatic change in my attitude about where I was. I made a choice that I had no choice but to pass all of my courses.

By then, I had accumulated quite a number of subjects, about 21, and I had to complete and pass them all.

2. I chose to wake up earlier and study every day.

Even on Sundays.

I was determined to pass my courses. I ignored the comments and jokes about why I was still in school when all my other peers had graduated.

I had to eat humble pie for the mistakes I had made.

Sometimes I had to remind myself “Ok, so I failed, but I will make this right!”

And you know what?

After lots of hard work and persistence every day, I passed all my courses!

I was so happy, I could not believe it… for like 5 seconds.

Then I remembered how much work and commitment I put into passing, and I just bathed in the glory of knowing I was going to receive my degree.

The moral of this short story is that no matter what happens to you, no matter how badly you fail, there is always a lesson from it and a chance to grow. Never let your failures define you.

At a certain point, you’re going to have to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made in your past, and for the failures that you created, especially if you were aware of your behavior while you were doing them.

 

Trust me when i tell you that there will be those who are aware of your failures and will use every opportunity to rub it in your face.

Do not mind them for one bit!

You may fail, but it does not make you a failure, and it does not matter at all what they say!

What matters is you and what you choose to do with the mess you created.

Go from “I failed” to “I started over, I figured it out, and I won bigger than I ever thought I would!”

That’s how this game is played.

It’s a marathon, and sometimes you will fall, but you have to get back up and keep going.

Turn your failure into success.

 

About the Author

Sheila Makena is a dedicated enthusiast and student of habit and behavioural change who sees the greater need for individuals to change of unwanted routines and habits in their lives in order for individuals to live their highest purpose and desires. Read full bio here...

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