In this video, I talk about my most significant failure and how it affected me. It took me 5 years to do a 3 year degree. I wasn’t happy with that at all, especially during my second last year of school, which was supposed to be my last. I practically freaked out and had to go for a counselling session to put everything into perspective.
The consequences of this failure were:-
1. I had to go back home to my parents and show them my transcript, for them to see how badly I had done. What hit me most was that they were going to have to fork out more fees for me to complete my degree. It made me feel so guilty because I knew how hard they were working, and I took this completely for granted.
2. When I got back to the university the next year for my last year, I had to contend with the embarrassment of going back to repeat another year. As expected, everyone had graduated, and the only ones who hadn’t clearly were the ones who slacked off, and I was part of that party. I felt terrible being identified as someone who wasn’t serious about their studies or their future, but the embarrassment didn’t last long.
The rewards of this failure:
1. I had a dramatic change in my attitude about where I was. I made a choice that I had no choice but to pass all of my courses. By then, I had accumulated quite a number of subjects, about 21, and I had to complete and pass them all.
2. I chose to wake up earlier and study every day. Even on Sundays. I was determined to pass my courses. I ignored the comments and jokes about why I was still in school when all my other peers had graduated. I had to eat humble pie for the mistakes I had made.
And I passed all my courses! I was so happy, I could not believe it… for like 5 seconds. Then I remembered how much work and commitment I put into passing, and I just bathed in the glory of knowing I was going to receive my degree.
The moral of this short story is that no matter what happens to you, no matter how badly you fail, there is always a lesson from it and a chance to grow. Never let your failures define you.
You may fail, but it does not make you a failure.