In this video, I break down what, according to me, forgiveness is and isn’t supposed to be.
This for me is what forgiveness is not:
For one, forgiveness does not mean that you are weak.
A lot of us think that we remain the helpless victims when we decide to forgive the one(s) who wronged us, and that is probably why we hold on so vehemently to what the perpetrator(s) did to us.
Forgiveness does not mean the other person gets away with it.
We seem to think that forgiving someone is like a “get out of jail free” card for the person who hurt us, but this is not true. I remember when I would absolutely refuse to forgive people because I thought I would be letting them get away with what they did to me. So I kept my anger and vengeance… very proudly, I might add.
What forgiveness actually means to me is:
I make the choice to take back my power
I am making the decision to let go of thoughts that are imprisoning me and slowly killing me inside
It is the greatest form of self love and compassion I could ever possibly show myself, because I am finally saying that I have suffered enough, I have gone through years and years of pain and now it is time to take my life back!
What does forgiveness mean to you? Do comment below. I would love to know your thoughts.