“Are you a fortune-teller? A clairvoyant? If not, why anticipate the worst for yourself? We predict events will turn out in a negative way because our self-beliefs are limiting.”
― Maddy Malhotra
Do you honor your feelings, even the beliefs that are currently limiting you?
Society has taught us that whatever sabotages and blocks us from our greatest desires is not good for us, and we need to fight to get rid of those things.
I don't see it that way anymore.
In fact, I have become the biggest advocate of embracing negative and limiting beliefs.
Not embracing them to dwell on them, but embracing them to acknowledge the current role they are playing in our life and to really look at them critically and patiently.
Just like this article I posted about self sabotage, it is important to identify and understand exactly what is holding you back.
You may not realise that every limiting belief you currently have is a like permission slip you created for yourself through a powerful experience that negatively impacted you.
Here are 6 examples of negative statements we have stored and memorized as a result:
1. “I don’t deserve it.”
Whether it's love, money, success, a lot of the time you might have made decisions about what you believe you are deserving of, whether you are aware of it or not.
Notice how you have problems accepting a compliment?
Where do you think that comes from?
So many of us harbor false programming and conditioning, especially as children, where we were constantly let down, neglected or even abused.
e convince ourselves that it is all too good, and something bad has to follow soon.
The problem with feeling that you do not deserve the successes that can come into your life is that you close the door on these present and future opportunities or successes that can potentially come our way.
2. “I'm too scared to be my real self.”
Too many of us want to fit in to the status quo.
We do not like to rock the boat too much, or even want to question how things are in our lives.
We have a fear of looking stupid around other people when we make the bold step to think and act differently from what would be considered normal.
The idea of stepping out and trailing one’s own path scares the living daylights out of us.
We do not want to test the waters, or try anything new, for fear of “looking different”.
This is the kind of limiting belief that keeps us from ever showing our true genius.
Success comes from making a bold decision to walk the other way, beat your own path and find your own definition of yourself and success.
3. “I will become a target of criticism.”
This is such a great, and limiting belief in many of us.
We cannot stand the idea of anyone opposing something we do, and because of this, we stay away from ever pursuing something greater than ourselves, out of fear that we will be potentially at the receiving end of criticism.
Here’s the thing: even if you do become a target, (which by the way, you will become anyway if you pursue something unusual, or very novel) will the criticism kill you?
A famous quote by Marcus Aurelius goes:
"Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth."
This may not have occurred to you before, but anyone who criticizes you is merely projecting their own fears and irrationalities on you.
So in the end, the criticism and ridicule will die down, and these people will find something new to project their fears on, once they realize that you are not budging!
4. “I cannot deal with rejection.”
This is one of those limiting beliefs that has caused too many of us to abandon a goal at the first sight of a hurdle!
Rejection is something you must deal with.
It comes with the territory of a success mindset.
There are a lot of people in our lives we feel so obligated to.
We end up not pursuing a goal at all because of we believe that if our friends or some family members hear about it, “they won’t handle it, and I can’t handle losing them.”
We seem more invested in our relationships with certain people in our lives than we are our own success.
Some people truly are crabs in a bucket.
They will either deliberately or unknowingly make you afraid of wanting to pursue your goals and dreams because they are so far from who they are or what they could ever imagine, that you end up sacrificing your dreams for them.
It is unfortunate, but very true.
If your friends cannot handle your ambition, then they do not deserve to be in your circle. Surround yourself with those who will lift you up, not keep pulling you down with them, so that you can remain nice and warm in your bucket together.
5. “Good things never last!”
We seem not to believe that anything we create that is good is sustainable. If this is the case, why do we get married?
Do we not want our marriages to last?
Why do we have children?
Do we not want them to not only survive, but thrive and grow up to be successful and independent?
It seems that we work in contradiction of our deepest desires, then we wonder why the direct opposite of what we really wanted is what ended up happening!
The truth is that we are powerful beings. We speak things into existence.
Your success will last if you proclaim in your heart and mind that it will. Stop using your past to determine how well or how badly you will do in your future.
If things didn't work out for you then, it is by no means a reflection of what is to come for you. Not by a long-shot.
Good things do last. You can have your success, and keep it too!
6. “I have too many flaws!”
Who do people know you as? And are you so invested in what people know you to be that it keeps you from being who you really are?
Many of us have wonderful, innate talents that we do not want others to know about.
We seem to be too concerned with our reputation, and how people perceive us, than we are our goals and our progress.
We are flawed human beings. Nobody is perfect.
Yes there are people who share the same talent as you, who are probably doing some really awesome things with it, but it should never, ever stop you from pursuing and perfecting your own gift.
Even if someone in your life tells you how good you are at something, you still go out of your way to convince them that you are not what they think you are, and that you can never do it as well as they think you could.
We convinced ourselves a long time ago that we are not good enough because of our imperfections, and this is yet another powerful hindrance to the success we truly deserve.
This article barely scratches the surface about the factors that keep us from discovering true success and happiness.
But what matters is that we begin to notice what is limiting us, question it and decide to move forward.
As we move along, we discover that many of our fears are truly illusions; limiting beliefs that hinder who we really are and what we truly deserve.
Over to you!
What are the limiting beliefs that you are currently struggling with and what steps are you taking to overcome them, if any?
Do comment below with your thoughts!