My friend was on the other end of the phone, crying hysterically.
She got the most unexpected news that Monday morning...
...she was going to get laid off.
“Why me? ...why now? ...why did this have to happen to me???”
I sat silently, listening to her hysterical rants, not really knowing what to say to her other than “I’m really sorry hun…”
During situations like these, the worst thing you can do is try to console your friend by saying
“You’ll be fine, everything will work out, don't worry...”
…especially when you still have your job and life seemingly intact!
But I couldn’t help but ask myself:
“Why do we always seem to think that life owes us a perfect path?”
I know that sounds ruthless, but I think it's a real question we have to start asking ourselves.
Life is not going to be kind to many of us.
We will encounter terrible losses…
We will find ourselves totally stranded, in conditions that we never thought would happen to us.
Certain experiences ARE going to hit us like a tsunami!
It is crucial to go through the grieving process of any traumatic experience we encounter.
But once we have managed to come to the reality of the experience we are facing, we must look into making a radical shifts, away from the disaster that we find ourselves in.
You will go through a point where you will ask yourself questions like:
“Why did this have to happen to me?”
“Why did s(he) have to do that me?”
“Who is to blame for where I am right now?”
“Why can’t this have happened to someone else?”
“Why did s(he) have to go?”
“How will I survive without him/her/them?”
“What if I could turn back time?”
You are well within your right to ask yourself these questions.
However, when you dwell on them for too long, they will forever keep you in a state of mental paralysis, where you are incapable of finding any relief or peace, forever stuck in this prison of anger, despair and hopelessness.
Over time, when you start to realize that these thoughts are only making you sicker and sadder by the day.
We must start asking ourselves the right questions... the type of questions that will awaken our self-awareness.
Here are 12 incredibly powerful questions, inspired by Michael Bernard Beckwith and Dr. Joe Dispenza, to increase your self-awareness:
What is this experience teaching me?
What is the greatest ideal of myself that I can be today?
What is my true purpose?
What do I need to free myself from?
Who do I need to free myself from?
What can I be thankful for right now?
What do I want to receive in my life?
Who do I have to become to receive what I want?
What is my next step to take in my life?
What is the vision for my life?
What do I want to unlearn?
Who do I not want to be?
These questions, should you choose to receive them, can virtually change the way you view yourself and your life.
Write these questions down.
Meditate on them, listen to how your inner voice responds to them.
You don’t have to answer each one, just write the answers to the ones you are most drawn to.
Soon, you will start to find “new possibilities in seemingly impossible circumstances” as Dr. Joe Dispenza says.
My hope for you is that, in the journey you are currently on, you can use these beautiful questions to help you map out the future that you want, free from the shackles of your past.