If you’ve ever done a Google search for “signs you’re in a toxic relationship” or “how do you know you’re in a toxic relationship” then I have news for you…
...you are in a toxic relationship.
You may not believe this but you have great instincts.
Warning bells have been ringing in your head for so long, you got used to the noise and have now chosen to ignore them.
God knows you’ve heard it from your friends, and some family members, the ones who care for you anyway, that you need to leave this person.
You’re not happy.
You feel drained and exhausted, like there’s a leech you can’t find somewhere in your body slowly sucking the lifeblood out of you.
But you still stay…
And trust me, I am not here to judge you.
I know you think about how amazing s(he) was when you first met and the first few months you were together… it was like magic.
But things started to change… the arguments started, and they seem to get worse and worse.
When things are good between you two, they are awesome… but when they aren’t there is hell to pay.
And despite all the arguments,
Here’s Why You Are Still NOT Ready To Get Out Of Your Toxic Relationship
You are terribly afraid of what your life will be like without this person there because you do genuinely love him/her.
You may not want to admit it but this person fuels your own toxic behavior.
You are still holding on to the good times and their good side, hoping that one day this person will change.
You blame yourself for how they act, and you believe that your partner’s happiness is dependent on you altering your behavior.
You’re still very willing to look past their mistakes, make excuses for them and say they are “only human”.
If you are still in this space, then you haven’t reached your bottom yet.
Until you find that breaking point, that one last action (s)he says that drives you over the edge to make that final decision to leave, you probably will still choose to stay.
Unfortunately, the way most of humanity is set up, we may be uncomfortable, unhappy or downright miserable in our current situation, but it seems we are still not uncomfortable, unhappy or miserable enough to leave that situation.
The good news is that you are reading articles like mine and enlightening yourself more and more.
You are slowly building up the courage to say “It’s either you or me, and I choose me!”
Contrary to what you may believe, you do have a choice. It is up to you what you decide.