“Get out into the sunlight – out where everything is – with a vibration that is so dominant that those who annoy you; those who make your life feel uncomfortable don’t come into your experience, because your vibration – through your practice – has become so clear, so pure, so clean, so in keeping with what you want, that the world that revolves around you just feels like that. That’s what you planned.”
― Abraham Hicks
You know what misery is?
It’s being perpetually stuck between a rock and a hard place.
In this case, the rock is what you want to do, who you want to become, all the glittery desires you have in your head. The hard place is the reality of where you are, and the continued reminder that it is almost impossible to see yourself getting out of this reality.
This is what we are all faced with on a daily basis. We see the successful folks in their successful lives, with their fancy cars, plush vacations and villas in exotic locations, and we compare THAT to our ordinary lives, wishing we could have that but thinking you’d probably need one of Jack’s beans to magically plant a beanstalk to take you to the heavens of success.
So what do you do when you are stuck between a rock and a hard place for years and years?
You react the same way any other human being would, of course!
You get out to ESCAPE from your misery!
We escape into the ordinariness of the way things are, and we create very comfortable, warm little nests inside that ordinariness. In the process, we start picking up habits that are counterproductive and end up being downright destructive. But that doesn’t matter does it?. It makes so much sense to not have to deal with the idea of stretching oneself further than what one knows to be the life they know, especially when we have absolutely no idea where that road may lead to.
It’s better to live with what you know. You are certain of its outcome. Even if that outcome is slowly killing you.
The successful: the ones making the power moves, the ones who get out and into the arena, never tell you about the darkness they had to walk through for a long time, the level of discomfort, uncertainty and sheer anxiety they had to experience for long periods, before they found their own light.
So maybe you are not interested in all the excesses that success has to offer. You are happy with the idea of financial independence, being able to provide comfortably for your family, the freedom of having your own flexible hours to do the things that you are truly passionate about, and having the luxury of taking vacations whenever you and your loved ones want.
But this is still a stretch for many of us. Not because we are poor, but because of our reality:-
– Working at a job that you are only interested in because it pays your bills… barely.
– Loans and mortgages to pay
– Family, especially the children, who need to be taken care of,
– And piling obligations.
So how do you go from here to what it is that you truly want?
Well, you have to have the courage to start the journey of getting there. You know what the most scary part of all of this is? Success is not guaranteed. For the many who have succeeded, there are just as many who have failed.
So here is the real secret:
Focus on the process!
Your truest focus can only be in one place: the process. The process is all you can control. You can control what you decide to do with your day each day. If it is going to be a copy-pasted outcome of what you did yesterday, and the day before, as well as the day before that, then that is totally up to you.
This is the part nobody wants to know about, but this is the truth. You have to show up everyday to do the work that will change your life.
It doesn’t matter how you show up. Drunk, sleepy, in a rage, passive aggressive, whatever emotion you may be feeling that day. Don’t get hung up on how you showed up. Just show up!
Your job is to get out, get on that bike and start riding.
Your job is to sit on that desk and start writing.
Your job is to execute the first step of that plan you have been plotting on – even if you have to break that first step down into 10 steps.
Your job is to say “No” out loud when you are not happy with what you have been asked to do.
Your job is to decide that today, you are going to make a left turn towards your home, because making that right turn to the local bar is going to lead to the kind of consequences that make you hate yourself even further the very next day.
Your job is to make that one move, every day. And when that day has ended, to look at yourself in the mirror and say “I did it. I got through it.”
That is the way out of misery. You cannot deny that you have the power to take one step at a time, consistently, for the next 30 days, then the next 60, then the next 90.
This is how great habits are created, and this is how habits become your normal life, and soon enough, your normal life will become a life that makes you cry tears of joy, because you simply cannot believe how far you have come.
If you don’t think you have the power to do this, then write your comment below, and tell me why you still think you cannot do this. If you now believe you have the power to change your condition out of misery into success, then you too should write your comment below, and tell me what you think you can do every day, no matter how small, to change your life.