6 Comments

  1. Mary
    November 4, 2019 @ 9:14 am

    Thank you so much for this Sheila. Sometimes I forget to share the grief regardless of how immensely I feel it ever so often. I too have experienced loss.
    One thing I’d love to add is to not only take stock of those relationships but also to share the grief with those people. We forget those people share the grief too.

  2. Sheila Makena
    November 4, 2019 @ 12:16 pm

    Hi Mary and thank you so much for your response!
    My deepest condolences to you on your loss. It is never easy, is it?
    I do agree with you, sharing your grief with those close to you can be a very cathartic process.
    This is certainly a learning process for each and every one of us!

  3. Helena
    November 4, 2019 @ 2:48 pm

    This is so powerful and helpful beyond many words. Thank you

  4. Sheila Makena
    November 4, 2019 @ 5:39 pm

    Thank you so much Helena! My hope is that the message in this article resonated with you, and it looks like it has. I am humbled.

  5. Renisha Jimmy
    November 5, 2019 @ 5:45 pm

    Thank you for this powerful read, I lost my brother in a horrible, horrible way…. felt as if he was just snatched away from us and the pain feels so real everyday like it just happened yesterday ! And this year December marks the 4th year he was stolen away from us! I can resonate with every sentence in your article! Thank yoi

  6. Sheila Makena
    November 5, 2019 @ 6:36 pm

    Hi Renisha and thank you for reaching out with your deeply heartfelt response. I can only imagine, that the 4 years you have lived without your brother still feel like 4 days.
    The pain is still raw and fresh… take the time you need, when you need, to reflect, to feel the anger, and with time, to be willing to heal. Your experience is so totally different from mine, so it is really important to honor yourself and the feelings you are going through right now. I know with time you will find more strength and courage to live the kind of life your brother would have loved to
    see you live.

    Sending you love and light,
    Sheila Makena!