"You become what you digest into your spirit. Whatever you think about, focus on, read about, talk about, you’re going to attract more of into your life. Make sure they're all positive.”
― Germany Kent
You may be in a space right now where you are genuinely afraid of where your life is going.
You’re doing your absolute best, trying to get through each day as life’s challenges continue to overwhelm and discourage you.
But the one thing you still have, that makes you wake up every day, is a deep desire that things will get better.
No matter how humble your circumstances have been for years and years, you still have plans, hopes, dreams and ambitions you want to fulfill.
I want you to know that your purpose is not a fleeting, useless emotion that you are feeling.
I realize that life has let you down with so many of your expectations shattered and promises broken, you genuinely wonder what the reason should be to keep going.
But there is a reason why you have decided to keep reading this article.
There is a part of you that does not want to let go of the promises you have made to yourself to change your life and I applaud you for having the strength and courage to keep the light flaming inside of you, despite everything you have been through and are going through!
And this is what I am here to help you understand today...
How Can You Dramatically Change Your Life?
You don't need some complex, expensive training, workshop or seminar to change your life.
In fact, hundreds of thousands of people have spent obscene amounts of money searching for that seemingly elusive secret to changing your life, but have gone right back to their routine.
You might still think that the answer to the real change you are seeking in your life is outside of you, but it isn't.
It was not for me anyway.
10 years ago, I came across a book that changed my life forever.
After 2 years of going through a horrible depression and coming to a point of contemplating suicide, I knew something had to give.
This wonderful book, Louise L. Hay's incredible book, "You Can Change Your Life" had a simple 5-word phrase that I could not let go of.
The phrase is "I am willing to change."
This tiny but profound message helped me understand one thing:
It was POSSIBLE for me to do something about my situation.
And this was all I needed.
I decided to incorporate this these words into my every day language.
I used it every time I would fall into my old patterns of feeling stuck, going through bouts of shame and guilt and also my dependence on anger to fix my problems.
As I used the words "I am willing to change", 3 major changes happened in my life:
1. Firstly, they offered profound relief.
The thought that "I am willing to change" helped me realize that there was a part of me that was not as bad as I thought.
It also allowed me to daydream, to remember who I was before I became so miserable and unforgiving of myself and imagine even further into who I could be if I chose to let go of all my anger, guilt and shame I was holding on to for dear life!
2. I had to do change, even when I didn't want to
Even when I was having a really bad day, and I had absolutely no interest in engaging with the idea that "I am willing to change", I would slowly introduce the idea back into my mind, the way a mother would persuade a baby rejecting his/her lunch... gently and with persistence.
I had to compassionately influence myself into accepting, firstly, that nobody was asking me to make any drastic changes and secondly, all I had to do was say that I am willing to consider the theory of looking at my life from a different perspective.
Doing this would slowly put me into a new mind state, it would put me back into imagining what it would be like if I could truly make a difference in my life.
3. The results of this mindset training were profound!
I remember once, one afternoon on a weekday, I was lost in my thoughts of anguish and discouragement. I was jobless and was walking home from running a few errands.
I don't remember what I was thinking about, but what made this afternoon so memorable for me was that for the first time in my life, I stopped those thoughts dead in their tracks.
I told myself "I don't want to suffer like this anymore. I want to look at life differently now. I have had enough of this... I am willing to change."
I felt like I had been delivered!
I had found a breakthrough, and from then on, I knew I could use this newfound tool as a way to change my life.
This article about how to change your life in the next 30 days can also be useful towards your journey to change. Click on this link to check it out!
How Can You Change Your Mindset And Transform Your Life?
Start From A Simple Place.
If there is a particular area in your life that you are tired of and really want to do something about, I encourage you to start with the same phrase I used back then... "I am willing to change." Remember, thoughts are not facts. They can be changed.
So what are you willing to change?
- Eating/drinking habits
- Spending/debt issues
- Losing your temper
- Not exercising enough
- Addiction to smart phone
- Constant distraction
- Being irresposible/unreliable,
- Etc, etc, etc...
However, mindset training is also not easy, hence my suggestion to start very simple.
Focus On That One Thing...
Focus on that one area of your life that is bothering you the most right now, and make a decision to change it.
- what are your daily habits and behaviors that trigger that particular situation to recur over and over again? Identify them... really take your time with it.
- what are the regular emotions and feelings that arise whenever you are engaged in this unwanted behavior, habit or situation? Identify each one of them.
Create Emotional Awareness
I'd say a good 80% of our lives are on autopilot.
We have allowed our mind and body to run our lives for us and we are completely unaware of this astonishing fact!
Mindset training is about consciously responding, not simply reacting to a situation.
It will be very imperative for you to start becoming aware of your daily patterns.
As soon as you wake up in the morning, train yourself to be aware of how you speak to yourself and how it makes you feel.
If you feel constantly discouraged and dis-empowered, then know that this will always lead you to find a way to distract yourself by engaging in habits that bring temporary pleasure and relief, but eventually cause a lot of damage.
Whenever those feelings of hopelessness start to encroach the territory of your mind, tell yourself:
"I am willing to change.
I am willing to release this old pattern of thinking that no longer serves me. "
I want to create a new reality for myself, because I know I deserve better and I know I can do better."
Train yourself, everyday, to use these words to interrupt the emotional states that have wreaked havoc on your life for so long.
Do it consistently and faithfully over a period of time, and I guarantee you, your life will change!
This is the first simple step of others on mindset training.