Say you’re getting ready for bed and just as you get in, a huge angel appears in all it’s bright shimmering light and intimidatingly gigantic wings!
After your angel has told you not to fear her presence, he asks you what you really desire.
You respond, “I just want to be happy”.
Your angel responds “Stop getting in your own way, beloved…” then magically disappears!
Now THAT experience would immediately have an incredibly gigantic shift in the way you see things.
But does it have to take such a dramatic experience to change the circumstances of your life?
I’m sorry there is no beautiful, gigantic angel that appears in your life to give you profound messages, fills you with beautiful, calming light then disappears.
However, you can identify the things in our life that are making you unhappy and actually do something to change these circumstances… that is only if you are willing to!
So here are 31 (little or big) things that are secretly making you unhappy:
31 Things That May Be Making You Unhappy
1. Remaining in the comfort and familiarity of your current life situation, even if it is keeping you sad, stuck and even broke.
2. Living a lie, because you are afraid of being rejected and being alone.
3. Seeing very little to no progress in your life
4. Never following through on, or committing fully on the things you keep saying you will do (but either never start or never finish.)
5. Abandoning the things you used to really enjoy doing and people you really loved being with because of responsibilities and obligations that have taken over your life.
6. Constantly doubting yourself because you have no faith in yourself.
7. Having drama, energy vampires around you all the time.
8. Difficulty saying “No”, even when you know it is something you have no business doing.
9. Feeling constant guilt or shame about things you have done or failed to do.
10. Not forgiving yourself for your past regrets or failures
11. Holding on to the wrongs people have done to you.
12. Living on auto-pilot where hardly anything changes and you are still living the same routine over and over again.
13. Addiction to your distractions because they are the only ones that give you immediate pleasure.
14.Refusing to open up and talk about the things that are really bothering you and have bothered you for the longest time.
15. Holding on to your "glory days", believing that your best days are behind you, frequently looking back at how great things were and how depressing your life is now.
16. Believing that you are always the victim, that no one understands you and that it is usually someone else’s fault that you are where you are.
17. Being ridiculously hard on yourself, having constant feelings of self-loathing.
18. Having a terrible relationship with money, in denial of your current financial status.
19. Betraying yourself by giving everyone else control of your life but never you.
20. Never seeing anyone's point of view but your own, so you’re stuck in the same belief system you’ve always had.
21. Constantly complaining about everything that's wrong or not working out.
22. Ignoring your feelings.
23. Ungrateful for the life you have, always talking about how good others have it and how yours sucks.
24. Endlessly comparing yourself to others.
25. Worrying incessantly about what other people think.
26. An incessant need to control every aspect of your life and the lives of those closest to you, like your spouse or children.
27. Allowing fear to talk you out of your deepest desires or excitement.
28. Forever chasing what you think is better, hardly ever appreciating how far you have come.
29. Living for everyone else but yourself, making everyone else a priority and having barely enough time or energy for yourself.
30. Taking yourself and life too seriously.
31. No fun in your life… in fact, you have forgotten the last time you had a good laugh.
How Do You Stop Being So Miserable?
Here’s the upside to this:
You have the power right now to change any of these states.
They are all within your power to shift, you do not have to live this way.
But it has everything to do with whether you have the courage to actually break free from your patterns, the control of your ego, and the story that you repeatedly tell yourself.
Start listening to the way you talk to yourself.
Is it compassionate, kind and encouraging? Or is it filled with demoralizing, pessimistic undertones filled with fear, anxiety?
Make a conscious and deliberate effort to change 1 thing in your daily routine.
Do significantly less things that you know are simply not productive and have no value in your life.
Stop prioritizing low level emotions ASAP!
Understand that there are consequences to wanting to take real action and never following through or committing.
You are basically telling your mind and body that you will always be a quitter, who relies on laziness and boredom to make important decisions for you.
Open Up To The World Around You
Holding on to old beliefs and views because “that’s how things have always been” is holding you back from actually living.
It could even be holding you back from finding real love.
Decide to challenge the way you see the world.
You might be pleasantly surprised by what you find!